Words don’t matter
Horses are not deaf. They have ears yet they don’t understand what we say. We can say something bad to them but they could not understand and differentiate between compliment and criticism. The only thing that matters to them is the way we speak. Our tone, eyes, hand, and body movement are the things by which they predict what we want to convey. So, the master of the horse is very careful, speaking to them. He makes sure to properly use his hands, eyes, and tone of speaking so that he can convey the appropriate message.
Now, look at yourself, while talking to your team, how do you use your hands and eyes? How do you keep the tone of speaking? Do your words and actions go simultaneously or do they both deliver two different messages?
The people with whom we work are not deaf, they act like the deaf. They check your words with your actions, whether or not all those things are in a sink. It is quite impossible to deliver a motivational speech when your mind is full of anxiety, eyes reddened due to lack of sleep and your body is tired. All four things will deliver different messages. Most of the young leaders face this kind of challenge in their early stages.
It is very easy to say the target is easy and accomplishable but, in your mind, you know the truth. When you tell a lie with full confidence your teammates read your body language. Your words may say it’s possible but your rhythm and body language say it’s impossible.
It’s better to keep your mind and your word in a sink. When you compliment, make sure you compliment genuinely and there are no fake words.
Speak up, if you dislike any action of your teammates rather than false praising. If you tell them you are wrong, they will appreciate your action and try to solve it but if they come to know from others, it will hurt them. They will lose confidence and their mind will be encircled with despair. All these things will lead to the failure of the common goal of the organization.
So, the next time you want to open up your heart with your fellow mates and lover, make sure everything is coordinated. When you speak up, your mouth delivers the same message, your heart wants to and you melt their heart with yours.
This scene is taken from the book “Struggle Scream Success.” The author, Banty Barman, a twenty-six years old lone wolf has beautifully depicted 101 leadership lessons for entrepreneurs from his experience of six incredible years in the direct selling industry. Born and raised in Kolkata, WB and completed his graduation from Calcutta University. His first title “A Mistake that changed my Life.” is a love story where he depicted his true love and emotions for his school life girlfriend in it. Contact him at email@example.com.