Attachment hurts

I am not talking about that attachment which you have with your fantasy. I am talking about that fantasy which is our dream, a goal to accomplish. You must have heard the story where a monkey tries to take out a coconut from a box. He inserts his hand through a hole, grabbing the coconut in his hand, and tries to take out his hand from that hole. The coconut was larger than the hole, as his hand contains the coconut, it becomes almost impossible to take his hand out from that hole with that coconut. Now the monkey has two choices, either keep trying to take out his hand with coconut and never get successful or to leave the coconut and hunt somewhere else for bananas.

Ask yourself, are you doing something specific and trying to get it? Do you feel hurt when you think about giving up on your goal? Does it feel like someone stabbed your chest when people say to forget your dream? Have you ever come to a situation, you planned to get the same goal from somewhere else?

You must have told yourself, once you get that thing, you will be happy. While telling this to ourselves, we do not realize that a particular event or thing may not come into our life, till our last breath. We become so emotional with our goal; we start sacrificing our present for an imaginary future. Our emotions keep us attached to that impossible goal, and so we sacrifice and disregard everything around us to achieve it. The purpose of our life shifts to that one goal that is almost impossible to achieve. We try and try, and once we lose all our time, we start blaming the divine. We curse our life and forget to enjoy it.

Don’t become an emotional fool. Just like that monkey, we too ignore other opportunities we get in life. When we have tried thousands of times yet it’s not successful, seems impossible, then it’s better to give up. Do not try to become Mr. Edition. It might make your whole life in disguise.

Always give limited time and resources, especially your emotions to every target. It’s completely ok to fail but getting stuck to it is harmful to your career. Not just yours, the entire team will destroy their precious time and overall lead towards the failure of the organizational goal.



This scene is taken from the book “Struggle Scream Success.” The author, Banty Barman, a twenty-six years old lone wolf has beautifully depicted 101 leadership lessons for entrepreneurs from his experience of six incredible years in the direct selling industry. Born and raised in Kolkata, WB and completed his graduation from Calcutta University. His first title “A Mistake that changed my Life.” is a love story where he depicted his true love and emotions for his school life girlfriend in it. Contact him at


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